What should a girl think about that guy?
1. That thing in him you know will change after you get married…won’t. You may have plans to change him but that question mark in your heart is God’s warning. Let the change be genuine, tested, and before you get married! Or that trait you are closing your eyes to now will plague you the rest of your life.
2. If he suggests having sex or moving in with each other as a ‘test run’ tell him to get back to you when he decides to become a man. Leave him with his fantasies and instabilities. The guy who suggests such things is saying, “I’ve decided to openly disrespect you and want to know if you’ll take it.” Don’t take it…or him.
He is saying, “I love what your body can do for my body. As for your soul, it can go to hell.”
3. The Bible defines love. “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” (1Co 13:4-8)
4. Find a man who has found Jesus Christ. He’ll know that real love is laying down his life for another. He’ll know that the promise he makes at the altar is not for the sake of ceremony but the bond of a lifetime. And he’ll know one of God’s greatest gifts he has ever received is you.